Trust her

Trust her

Unless she has given you reason(s) not to, why wouldn’t you? In the beginning you are learning about her personality, her value system, her interests, and so forth. Along the way, life is going to provide both of you with tests when it comes to trust. You don’t need to help out here, there will be more than enough naturally. If you are unsure about whether she is trustworthy, talk to her about your fears, and give her concrete examples. Give her a chance to explain. We can expect things of others, but we cannot, no matter how hard we try, know what they are thinking or what might have happened to them when we weren’t present to see. If you want to know why she smelled of men’s cologne when she returned from the grocery store with only one item, or where she was at precisely 7:32 last evening when she didn’t answer her cell, or why she was late for your lunch date, ask her, then give her a chance to tell you, and forgive her the little stuff. If you find yourself wondering again and again if she can be trusted, either she is repeatedly exhibiting behavior that is representative of deceit, or you have issues that have nothing to do with her that you need to resolve (preferably with the help of a licensed counselor.) The point is that healthy relationships depend on mutual trust between the partners. Find a way to trust her or ask yourself this: if I can’t trust her, why would I want to continue to be with her?